Are you scheduling your wedding day down to the minute? If so, you are probably a project manager or have a like minded way of thinking.

Your day’s schedule may look great on paper, but trust me when I tell you, it will not go as exactly as planned. On your wedding day there are an average of 20 people working to put it all together. From makeup artists to DJ’s, they are all working independently for a common cause, YOU.

A few weekends ago a bride brought with her a precise timeline of events down to the minute of things that were going to happen. During our prewedding gameplanning consultation, I warned her that the schedule, while a good general outline of the day, would most likely not go as scheduled down to the minute. I told her not to stress about it, it is part of every wedding and to just enjoy her day.  She assured me that she had it completely under control and the timeline would be followed.

I arrived at her house on the wedding day, on time and ready to work. No answer at the door. A quick phone call confirmed the makeup session took 20 minutes longer than planned, and that hey were on the way. We had a nice laugh about it when she arrived.

Moral of the story? Do plan your day. Do not plan your day with no room for deviation. You will be putting more stress on yourself than you need. Instead give a general timeline of events with 30 minutes wiggle room. You will feel much better.